Act like a LADY think like a MAN, this page is dedicated to my fellow NICE LADIES!
Thanks to the movie "HANGOVER" our husbands have coined us "Nice Ladies" why? Well because we decided long ago that we would live our lives not by the previous views of a women, wife and mother. But by our own rules, what we decide. We do what we want when we want!
I've been struggling with the fact that I've done nothing amazing, been successful or made any big contributions to the human race. I try to be a good person, but how can I be a better me than I was yesterday? Everyday somebody else in some place else is creating, organizing or building something great. I've been complacent far too long and believe it is time to rally for my future.
Motivation: how do I get it? Where can I find it? Passion: I have misplaced mine, can I replace it? Risk: Afraid to leap, what if I fall?
So I'm reading this book by Jon Acuff "START" subtitles "PUNCH FEAR IN THE FACE" "ESCAPE AVERAGE" and "DO WORK THAT MATTERS"
He discusses in this book that we need to find our inner awesome, do what brings you joy. Well that's some great advice, however what if at the time you have absolutely no idea what that is? I can tell you on a day to day basis its very rare when I think hmm yes this makes me happy or I am enjoying this. He mentions in the book, your awesome is probably something you're unaware of something you do so often that you don't consider it awesome but part of what you do.
HOW DO YOU FIGURE OUT YOUR AWESOME? HOW DO I FIND MY JOY?
Not to be a complete downer but I need a little direction, a hint , a clue or a giant neon sign saying hey "you're good at this". Woo hoo I'm good at lying (great) not huge lies but just little white lies.
HOW DO YOU KNOW WHEN YOU'RE AT PEACE? HELP ME FIND MY AWESOME!
I was on a blogging hiatus, I need to figure out some things on my journey to "Financial Peace" so I thought I would get advise from some one smarter than I. Recently I purchased our Financial Peace University Kit. Now this is no walk in the park but it is very helpful.
Once I did my worksheets I felt like I had just been kicked in the gut. How has my family been surviving? How have I just thrown so much money away? How could I have let this happen? Well at the time it was pretty easy! I mean 1,2 or 3 COACH bags a couple pair of new shoes. My excuse "well I work hard, I deserve it!" Yes, with that attitude I deserved what I got. A whole lotta crap and nothing of value to show for it.
We're getting on track, coming to an agreement about our lifestyle (the spouse and I that is). Our adventure will bring new and exciting ways to think about our relationship with OUR MONEY.
We've shied away from reaching for the Debit card, cut up the Credit card and started with the trusty ENVELOPE SYSTEM.
Here's to the future of "Ballin on a Budget" woot woot!
I mean really she could probably wipe her nose with $100 bills, bajeezus! But yes she is amazing, who'd thought way back in the 80's hey this chic's got something. Well like many kids my age all of our mothers watched this mogul at 3pm FAITHFULLY! Why? She was magic, her wieght was an issue, her style and yes she is a black beautiful woman. Anyhow, while I was strutting pass a table I saw this magazine. 101 Best Pieces of Advice EVER! Got me thinking well we could all use a bit of advie from time to time. Well I would sincerely love to thank whom ever ripped the pages out! JERK. Yeah I was totally looking forward to ready this article and yet a huge disappointment. GRRRR So I'm gonna GOOGLE it and see if I can find this darn thing because know I'm on a mission.
I have been away for some time, I took a pity party break. Yes, I'm done!
After feelings of FAILURE & LOSS I pulled up my big girl pants and realized it could be worse. I could be away from my family like many soldiers over seas, I could be homeless like many women on skid row, I could be alone without my beautiful children, I could be in the unemployment line like many of my friends & family, I could be hungry like many of the children I see everyday. And last I could be cold & heartless, without feeling, love, generosity and just plain humanity.
With the ugliness we see from day to day whether it be the news, the internet, the freeway (road rage) or in plain sight. Have we become desensitized to compassion, caring for one another, being courteous and polite.
I would like to make a difference in this world, be even the smallest change. Something positive for my children to see. I just don't know where to start.
I have a love for dogs!
My hope is to able to foster the abandoned, abused and rescues out there. I'm gonna have to start with one small factor: PURCHASING A HOME! okay so not so small but I need a yard. Then secure my yard for my visitors and making sure they are safe and cozy. I may be acting unrealistic but oh well this is the internet I can be whatever I want. Currently I am not following my passion but my job seems to pay the bills, thats my sad truth. Baby steps will hopefully get me going in the right direction.
These are our little hunks, I could never imagine them lost wihtout a home. They're so important to our family, couldn't imagine our lives without them.
I feel like I'm on a roll, when I get into the kitchen i feel like I should see a checkered flag somewhere. 3rd night another 25min meal. I'm saving money, feeding the family and not making myself totally crazy. Could I be onto something, maybe. Last night my daughter had a game, I left work went straight to the game. Towards the end my stomach was kinda growling (feed me seymore!) So I left as soon as the game ended. Did a quick glance into the freezer, fridge and cabinet. Here's what came out:
TOTAL COST $6.98
2lbs of frozen pork chops $5.99 @ f&e
1 can of butter beans .99 @ f&e
1/2 onion diced
3 carrots diced
2tbsp olive oil
left over potatoes
2tbsp minced garlic
cornstarch (if you want thick sauce)
I used a 5qt pot to make this.
1. From my last few post you can probably tell I love to add onion & garlic to almost everything.
2. Saute diced onion and minced garlic in 2 tbsp of olive oil, after they are translucent add diced carrots and 2 pinches of salt. Give it a quick stir then add your frozen pork chops. With the burner on high cover the pot and let the veggies caramelize and the chops kinda steam.
3. Open your can of butter beans then drain.
4. After about 5min pork chops should have defrosted and start to break apart from one another. If not gently try to separate them. Then stir a few times and cover again still on med-high heat.
5. In a small sauce pan heat up your beans.
6. After 5min add 1c water to your pork chops, stir. depending on the thickness of your pork chops this meal is almost done. At this point if you want a nice thick sauce add 2tsp of cornstarch and stir again. Viola all done.
Well it was Saturday night and wow for a change we're home! All of us the whole household. I stopped by the market on the way home, and thought tonight I would like to have a nice girly/sweet cocktail. No special occasion, no stress just a nice little cocktail for myself. While I was at Stater Bros. i walked down their liqour aisle and found this little doosey!
Blue Rasberry/Lemon Vodka 12.5% alchohol. So I did a little taste test before actually serving myself (1oz. portions). My first try was adding lemon, it still had a slight after taste. Second I added salt & lemon trying to give it a little tart bitter taste, nope still after taste. Then I had some lemon lime mineral water, ding ding ding. this worked best. I sed about 6oz of the UV Vodka poured over 1c of ice and added the mineral water to top it off.
This was the best combo for me. Your taste might be different so dabble a little.